processing tragedies.

Self-Care / Sunday, September 6th, 2020

Hello, hi. Welcome back guys.

*deep breath*

The last few weeks have been a lot. Hell, 2020 has been a lot.

I wanted to avoid talking about the negative side of 2020, instead choosing to focus on the light at the end of the tunnel but at this point? It’s doing a bit too much. A sis can’t even hide anymore.

For me, last week was one of those hard weeks 2020 has a habit of bringing our way. The passing of Chadwick Boseman hit hard, and I tried (and failed) to avoid all information relating to it. I avoided the memoirs, I avoided the tribute videos and I avoided social media the day the news broke. You’d think after everything this year has thrown our way, there would be nothing left to throw but I promise you? 2020 takes statements like that as a challenge.

It’s September and we’ve lost a lot of souls this year; Kobe Bryant, Naya Rivera, Pop Smoke to name a few. We also spent the majority of the year locked indoors for our safety and for others. For the Black community, the former didn’t put a pause button on racism. Racism is and has always been present within institutions we should supposedly support and look to for safety. The trials of 2020 didn’t change that fact so it was still very much something we, as a community, had to deal with. I’m currently trying to process 2020 – as of now I’m at the stage of trying to pinpoint when it all went wrong. Who did we offend?

As all of these things are happening, I think a lot of us are failing to process our emotions surrounding them. We’re shocked when it occurs, attribute it to the trainwreck that is 2020, and then keep it pushing. I can’t even begin to imagine the emotional burden of this year. How many people will begin therapy with this year in mind? How many people had their mental health in the toilet?

I’d like to raise my hand for the record, and let it be known that this year rocked me. Truly, wholeheartedly rocked. me.

I don’t think it’s me exaggerating, and I don’t think I’m alone in this. I’m here to remind you now that you’re valid in your feelings. It’s ok for you to be mad that a whole bunch of your plans were destroyed this year, it’s ok for you to be angry that you missed big milestones, and it’s also ok for you to be upset over celebrity passing’s even if you didn’t know them personally. Pain and sadness are contagious so once you feel the world moving a bit wild, it’s perfectly acceptable to feel that pain along with it.

We’ve got 4 months left of this hazardous year and I’m hoping something, anything can be scraped from it. I am truly on my knees at this point. I wish the same for you all, I’m hoping that these last 4 months somehow, someway makes up for what we’ve been through. For those of you that feel you would benefit from some additional help; I’ll be linking some resources below. Mental health is so important, especially in the current times we’re in so here are some resources I found on my search:

  • mental health apps (I recommend headspace which isn’t on the list and the stress & anxiety companion)
  • the help hub: an online service offering free 20 minute sessions from trained counsellors across the UK for those struggling emotionally due to COVID.

It”s important to note that these resources are only a couple of options. When necessary, please do not be afraid to seek help and professional guidance. provides a useful breakdown on how to go about receiving professional guidance.

Protect your mind, body and spirit in the crack that is 2020.

See ya’ll in the next one.

with all my love,


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